Face
Your face is the first thing that will draw the eyes of a stranger and what they will see will give them the initial idea of the kind of a person you are. A clear and glowing complexion and smooth shaven cheeks and chin are your passport to admiring glances and terrific first impressions. But a fresh looking skin cannot be achieved overnight. Proper diet, enough sleep and gallons of water to drink and to wash your face over time are the secret to healthy clear skin. In the meantime, give your face a thorough wash and a close shave every morning. If you are sporting a moustache or beard, give it a neat trim and make sure that there are no offensive hair sticking out in places where they are not supposed to be.

Body
The most important and basic grooming tip for your body is to keep it clean and smell – free. No amount of cologne can deodorize an unwashed body. Antiperspirant or deodorant in addition to an invigorating and cleansing shower is also critical. On top of a clean and pleasant smelling bod is a healthy and well toned body. This too will take time to achieve but you can start now by eating a proper diet, avoiding alcohol and tobacco and having an exercise regime.

Hair
Over and above a great and stylish hairstyle is a clean, healthy looking and well trimmed hair. Wash or shampoo your hair as often as possible, if possible every day, use a conditioner if you have to and have it trimmed so that it won’t look unkempt and straggly.

• Vertical stripes

Vertical stripes in a clothing item, shirts or pants, will help to lengthen your silhouette. So are patterns such as herringbone, chalk stripe and pinstripe.

• A perfect fit

Choose clothes that fit perfectly. Baggy and loose clothes will make you look squat and emphasize your short stature. Clothes with a perfect fit on a short guy with a good posture are an effective way to mask a short build.

• Dark & Light

Clothes in a darker shade and lighter fabric are a short guy’s best option to give that impression of added height. Black, most specially, has that remarkable effect of making short guys look slimmer and taller. Then again, lighter weight and softer fabrics without being clingy is a better choice than stiff and heavier fabrics that have a tendency to make a body look shorter and bulkier.

• Monochromatic clothes

Donning clothes in one color is one successful way to make a short guy look taller and slimmer. A monochromatic outfit, from belt pants and shoes, gives off a solid uninterrupted vertical line that makes a body look longer.

• Shorter jackets

Wear shorter jackets and pants a little higher on the waist without cuffs to make the legs look longer. Opt for vertical lines that will further add to the illusion. Photo Copyright of PR PHOTOS

Respect the rights of others

If we have rights so do the rest of humanity. Respect the rights of others so that you too can earn their respect. Admit the fact that your rights are not the only one that counts. Respect has nothing to do with wealth or position. It is all about recognizing the dignity of man and treating others in the manner that you want to be treated yourself. If only people have more respect for the rights of others, there will be less traffic fracas and violence, lesser incidence of crimes against property and life.

Don’t be condemnatory or judgmental

Recognize and appreciate the fact that every man is unique and singularly exclusive. Do not discriminate against others who you perceive as “different”. Being different is not menacing neither is it bad or good. Do not judge others just because they do not conform to your standards. This attitude deprives you of the joy of knowing, enjoying and learning. Remember that nobody is perfect, and the guy you are judging could be judging you as well, and in their standards you are the one that is lacking.

Be honest

Be honest to yourself and be honest to others. Honesty is still the best policy. The truth will always come out, maybe not today, or tomorrow but eventually it will. If you are found out lying then your credibility will suffer. No one trusts a liar. But there is a mile of difference between being truthful and being brutally frank. There are gentler kinder and more considerate ways to impart a truth. If you made a mistake, then own up to it. Everybody makes mistakes.

Look for the good in others

It is very easy to find fault in others. But if you keep concentrating on the faults of people then you become blind to their good points. Remember that there is always something good and something bad in all of us. You yourself are not perfect.

• Gather all financial documents that you can lay your hands on. all documents are important.

• Photo copy all the documents or list down the names, addresses and account numbers for every document you have collected just in case your wife asks for the original.

• Obtain the balances of every account that you are aware of – credit cards, savings account, checking accounts and even retirement funds, and keep track of all the transactions on the accounts if and when you need proof that your wife withdrew funds irregularly.

• Open a bank account in your name and begin depositing some money in it. Unless there is already a court restraining order against it, you can withdraw money from the joint account without your wife’s consent. Avoid getting more than 50% of the available funds and provide funds for issued checks and other charges.

• Get a lawyer and entrust to him all the documents you have collected.

Your wife may have already made some financial moves such as transferring cash into a new bank account or putting some assets out of your reach before informing you that she wants a divorce. While she won’t be able to get away with it, you may be up to a long and expensive legal battle to get what is legally yours. But being armed with the proper documentation will help you get them eventually.

Put on too much
Putting on too much or saturating yourself with cologne is not pleasing, it is offensive to people you pass by or get in contact with. You don’t drench yourself in cologne, all you need is a dab in the inner wrist, behind the ears and at the base of the throat, or what are called pulse points. Since your blood vessels are closer to the surface of your skin in these spots, every time your heart beats, the scent is subtly diffused.

Stick to one scent only
In the hotter months all you need is a light, citrus scent. A stronger more robust scent can be overpowering in the heat. But come fall all the way to winter, change your cologne to a spicier more full-bodied fragrance sine the lighter scent will be lost in the cold temperature

Stockpile
Fragrances or colognes are not collectibles. They are meant to be used, at least within 3 yrs, and then it loses its original fragrance and become rancid. So don’t hoard them, use them. This rule applies to both colognes that are partially used and those that are still unopened and wrapped in plastic or their original wrappings.

The cologne you’re wearing should make people notice you, but in a most positive way. It is a waste of money to buy an expensive bottle of cologne but not get any benefit from it.

• Do try it on before you buy

The only way to know if cologne and your body chemistry will blend is to try it on.
Don’t be hustled by a pushy sales lady in buying the 1st cologne she proffers to you. Try it on by dabbing a little of it on your skin, usually at the inside of your wrist or behind your ear lobe. Wait for some time to see if you will have any allergic reaction to it, and for the body chemistry to react to the cologne. If the cologne smells as good on your skin as inside its bottle and stays on with a delicate and subtle scent, then buy it.

• Do find out what your skin type is

One of the most important factor in choosing a cologne is your skin type. If your skin is dry, you may have to re-apply your cologne several times during the day to stay appealingly nice smelling. If you have oily skin, one application will be enough since your skin can maintain the scent even all day long.

• Do apply your cologne after a shower

Cologne works best with clean skin. It won’t cover up an unwashed body in fact it could do you more harm in the smell department. Applying a cologne after a hot shower or bath is even better. The warm water temperature will open your pores, and when your pores are open, it can absorb and retain the smell of the cologne better.

Firstly, you need to be more open minded. Forget all the usual norms you have been using and start with a clean slate. Cast aside what all your other male friends say is attractive and ignore all the sexy images that you see on television and male magazines. Start with the very fundamentals of what makes two people well-matched, not two lovers, but just two people on the whole, so as to find the right kind of woman for you.

To find the right woman for you, you need to take into account the total person and not just the physical or looks. This includes her personality, interests and of course looks in that order. If you base your choice on looks first, this will tend to obscure the other traits of the person. Men are inclined to be easily visually swayed and predisposed to think that what stirs them up at first encounter is exactly what they think they want.

On the other hand, if you have a clear idea of what you want in a woman, looks may not prove to be very important. You may realize that a woman who shares your interest in football or old movies, a good conversationalist and at the same time very dedicated to her job and has ambitions of furthering her career, but who is just average in looks, is the right woman for you. Common interest, a great personality, sense of humor, and intelligence are more enduring qualities of women that men look for in a woman they want to be serious about.

This kind of reaction is understandable, particularly when it comes as a surprise to you. There might have been early signs already that you refused to consider or acknowledge thinking that it will blow away. Now that it is staring you in the face, you have to get a grip on your emotion, do some straight thinking and act to protect yourself.

If you do not want a divorce, you can suggest to your wife that you both go into counseling. If your wife agrees to counseling, then there is a chance to save the marriage. And even if the counseling can’t help you save the marriage it will give some insight to your wife’s problems. It will also give you time to get reconciled to the possibility of divorce.

Yours is not a rare case. Other wives have done what your wife did; decide the marriage is dead long before she announced it to you. This could be because you and your wife were no longer communicating in matters of significance. This in itself is a sign that there is something wrong in the marriage which you refused to acknowledge because you did not want to “rock the boat”.

This time, don’t ignore the problem. It won’t go away just because you won’t acknowledge it. Your wife can get a divorce with or without your cooperation and may be able to get anything she wants if you do not do anything to prevent this from happening.

• Stop incurring new debts and reduce your expenses
If you have multiple credit cards and other “convenience cards” such as department store cards, gas cards and the like, give them all up except one. This should be the credit card that carries the lowest interest. Use this credit card only for emergency purchases and only up to an amount that you know you can pay off in a short period of time. The first debts that should be paid are high – interest credit card debts.

• Evaluate and Categorize your other debts
If you have a car loan for an expensive car then consider trading it off for a less expensive one to lower your loan payment. Consider a car that is more fuel efficient, this will bring you additional savings that can be used to pay for your other loans. When you have some freed cash or additional income, pay the most onerous debts first.

• Foray into your savings account
If you still have some money in your savings account that are non-retirement savings, use it to pay off some of your debts. For sure, whatever interest income you are getting for the savings will be a lot lower than what you are paying for your debts.

• Look into some sources for additional monthly cash
One such source could be your federal income tax withholding. If you are receiving a tax refund, most probably the tax being withhold from you by your employer is a bit excessive. You can modify your employer’s W-4 tax form to decrease the federal tax withheld on your pay check. You can also momentarily reduce your 401(k) contribution until such time when you are free of debts then you can resume and even catch up on your 401 (k) contribution. The reduction in your withholding tax and 401(k) contribution can go to the payment of your debt.

• Look for other sources of income
Work overtime, look for a second job, or do some part-time work such as tutoring and any income you get from this other sources should be channeled directly to paying your debts.

• Negotiate with your debtor
See if there is a way to negotiate with your creditors for a lower interest, lower monthly payment or any concession that they can give you. Once your debtor sees how serious you are in paying your debts, they may be inclined to offer you some concessions.

• Be committed
To make this method work, what you need is total commitment. Be committed to paying off all your debts and you will finally see the day when you are free of debts.

• Take a walk

A short brisk walk around the block is not only a good physical exercise; it is also a good way to clear your mind and your lungs.

• Do an act of kindness

If you only keep in mind that there are people in a direr situation than you are and can do something to make one of this less blessed people a good turn then you will feel a lot better.

• Clean out your space

A good way to release depressing feelings is to spend your energy clearing out your clutter and throwing out things that you no longer need. This will allow new and fresh energy to move into your space and at the same time the physical activity will energize you.

• Watch a funny movie

Watching a comedy movie and having a good hearty laugh is a sure way to get out of a bad mood.

• Indulge yourself

Women go shopping or have a whole day pampering at the spa to get out of a bad mood. You can do the same. Shop and don’t buy what you need but what you want. Get yourself a whole body massage and a manicure and pedicure to boot. The important thing is to do something unusual and break out from your normal habit.